Monday, October 29, 2012

Your Twenties ... such a confusing age!

I came across this in my blogger drafts folder, at some stage I probably decided against sharing, but I'm feeling in a sharing mood tonight, so I'll go ahead and post it.  I'm not standing over it as what I think now, I just think it's worth someone other than me reading it!

*** WARNING - this is a personal blog post. If you are chicken, don't read on! ***

I was just thinking while browsing friends' Facebook pictures. Uh-oh I hear you say, Laura's thinking again. Well it probably is one of those silly thoughts you were dreading, but I'm going to say it anyway because I think some other people might find it useful.

So, as I was saying, the thought that came to mind was that some people my age and younger, are married and have babies and look so old and mature simply because of that fact. It makes me think that I (and other of my friends) must look so young, naiive and even immature.

But then I saw some other pictures of married people my age with children, and they just looked weirdly out of place, too young for so much responsibility, and I think, okay maybe it's my friends and I who are normal, and they are not.

And then there are some people that depending on the picture, fit into both categories!!

I think your twenties are such a confusing age, especially in Christian circles, and it's hard to navigate the politics, the social situations, the pitfalls, the increasing responsibility, or lack therof.

And, I think it depends on what your social circle is, how you feel about it. For example, in some circles that I operate in, and these are people between 21 and 30, I am in the minority. I am not married and most people are, or in non-christian circles, are as married as they will be for a while. Many also have children. So in those situations it would be easy to think that you were somehow abnormal. Yet a couple of weekends ago I had the blessed opportunity to hang out with some 40 20/30 somethings, the majority of whom were single. Nothing abnormal about them, they just hadn't found the right person yet. And they were not at all worried. They were out having fun. And so was I.

In your twenties you are neither too young to be married or too old to still be single. That much is fact. But it's how you interpret that, how others around you treat you, and whether you are in the majority or in the minority that determines whether you believe this fact or not. I suppose the really mature of us have learned to believe that fact, regardless of circumstance, company and treatment by others. Those people have found true contentment.

And I'm in...!

So, after trying to jump through lots of hoops to get Google to allow me in here, I finally found the piece of paper with my password on it.  When I say found, I knew exactly where it was once I remembered that it existed!  Blogger has changed an awful lot since I was last here, in fact I'm not even sure I would need to access the HTML code anymore, which is ever so slightly sad as when I did this before it made me feel like I actually knew something about computer programming (which I pretty much don't).

I would really like to revive this blog as I either write too much on Facebook, causing people to switch off, or I don't express myself enough in the written word, as I condense what is going on in my life to a short, witty status.  And that's okay, because I don't really think the 500-odd friends I have on my Facebook page really want to know all about my life.  Many of them have added me and never talked to me.  Some are just curious as to what I'm up to now.  Which is fine.  A handful though will want to read on, these are probably the people who also have blogs, the people who used to have blogs before we really had Facebook, the people who used to read my blog and whose blogs I read, and some who really are just that interested!

I am starting to enjoy writing for writing's sake again and that's really good because ever since I set up this blog back in 2005 (!!) I did enjoy trying to make the mundane sound interesting, or writing some new inspiration I had (usually not very profound)... Anyway, I hope to update this a little more regularly, but I can't promise anything, you ALL know what happens every time I do. 

I am also going to post something I found in my drafts folder which I DO think is quite profound, but I'll not be linking that one to Facebook as it's ever so slightly personal...